It’s said that relationships fail more often than they succeed, which means it’s important to have a clear idea of what you can do to fix your relationship when you realize it’s on the rocks. In this article, I’ll go over some reasons why relationships fail and what you can do to make sure yours never does. Here are four reasons why relationships fail and how to fix them
1 – Fighting The Wrong Battles
Many of us waste energy and time on fights that don’t matter. Perhaps your partner likes sports and you don’t. It doesn’t mean he or she loves sports more than you, it just means they like them differently. If it doesn’t directly affect your relationship or lifestyle, then there is no need to get into a squabble about it! Remember, there are so many important things in life that are not worth sacrificing for a petty argument with your partner. #2 – You Don’t Know What You Want: In order to have a successful relationship, both partners must be able to communicate their needs and wants effectively. If one person isn’t sure what they want out of their partnership, how can they expect their partner to know? When couples aren’t clear about what they want from each other, fighting often ensues as both parties try to assert themselves. Set aside some time alone together and talk about what you both want from your partnership. Make sure you listen carefully when your partner speaks—you might learn something new! #3 – Having Unrealistic Expectations: The saying goes hope for the best but prepare for the worst and that couldn’t be truer when it comes to relationships. Sometimes we hope our partner will act in a certain way without considering whether or not they actually will. Instead of assuming everything will work out perfectly, take steps now to prepare yourself if your assumptions turn out to be wrong. For example, let’s say you assume your significant other will help pay off student loans after graduation but instead they choose to spend all their money on trips around Europe instead. Before getting married, make sure you discuss exactly how much help you’ll need during difficult times like these—and make sure everyone agrees upon an amount before moving forward with plans!
2 – Lack of Communication
Communication is one of those things that’s easy to do badly, but it also makes or breaks a relationship. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who doesn’t communicate well? It can be absolutely infuriating. You feel like you spend more time trying to get them to talk than listening when they do. And because communication is so important in a romantic relationship, when one person messes up, it has long-lasting effects on both partners and their feelings for each other. In an effort to not mess up your next potential relationship, here are four reasons why relationships fail, along with tips on how you can fix them. #1 – Lack of Honesty: This may seem obvious, but if you want your relationship to succeed, you need to keep things honest. Dishonesty—be it telling little white lies or hiding information from your partner—is one of those problems that will quickly snowball into something much bigger. If there’s even a chance you might end up getting caught in a lie, don’t tell it! It will only cause more problems down the road if you do. Keep honesty at the core of all interactions between yourself and your partner.
3 – Non-Negotiable Values
In order for a relationship to last, both parties must share core values. If you and your partner want different things in life or don’t want exactly what each other wants, it will never work out. Make sure you are on the same page before continuing forward with someone. It’s one of those #RelationshipGoals that you have in common with your partner, so make sure you discuss it early on! If you don’t see eye-to-eye on any of these topics, it may be time to rethink whether he/she is really worth your time. Or if they even deserve your love. After all, love shouldn’t hurt; if it does, maybe you should take a step back and evaluate why things aren’t working out. These are all non-negotiable factors when trying to achieve lasting happiness within a partnership; learn from them now before wasting years of misery down the road! No matter how hard you try, sometimes relationships just won’t work out. While many people like to think otherwise—that there’s always hope—in reality some relationships aren’t worth saving because they’re built on unhealthy foundations that cannot sustain a long-term union (and more importantly, most individuals know when their relationship isn’t right). These four signs indicate it’s time to end things once and for all
4 – One Person is Winning, the Other Losing
In any relationship, there will be arguments and issues that need to be resolved. However, you’ll never resolve those issues if one person is coming out on top, and there is no room for compromise. If only one party feels like they are winning in a particular situation or discussion, then you’ll always have an argument on your hands instead of an honest attempt at reaching a mutual understanding. When it comes down to it, relationships are all about balance—everyone needs to feel that they are able to express themselves in order for a relationship to work. Both parties must feel like they can get what they want while not having their partner say no or lose something that he or she values as well. Find ways to make sure both people are getting what they want without feeling like they are being taken advantage of. This way, everyone wins! #3 – No Room for Personal Growth: Another thing that makes relationships fail is when there isn’t room for personal growth. People grow over time and often find new things they enjoy doing or discover new goals they would like to accomplish; however, when someone doesn’t feel comfortable exploring his or her interests because it might impact his or her relationship with someone else, it can lead to problems. It might seem unfair to limit each other from trying new things just because you don’t want them doing something else; however, if your partner doesn’t allow you to try something new, how do you know if you’ll enjoy it?